When Did Good Morals & Manners Become Political?

Morals & manners existed way before the first ‘cup of tea’ was stirred in the political arena.

I was brought up with good morals & manners. Not the ‘use the proper fork kind’, but the kind where you learn respect for your elders, respect for family and friends, respect and interest in different cultures, and respect for nature and wildlife.

Respect for the world we live in.

So why is it when we bring up morals and manners today, it is often associated with ‘tea party’ views? How strange. Morals & manners existed way before the first ‘cup of tea’ was stirred in the political arena.

Morals and manners are getting a bad rap today, as if they are something to side step and avoid, a sign of ‘weakness’, or extreme political party affiliation. It is becoming increasingly difficult to raise children with manners today, when we are surrounded by ‘adults behaving badly.’ We may think our children are not watching us, but of course they are. This is a fact that has not changed since the beginning of time. They ‘unknowingly’ mimic us. The word ‘Respect’ can change the world. We need to make sure we pass the ‘definition’ down to our children.

So give morals & manners a chance at survival in our world. Take an extra minute to hold a door open for someone today. Buy a stranger a cup of coffee. Help your neighbor who is struggling to put food on the table. Take the time to show a child the beauty in nature. Listen to the stories of the elderly, so that history and traditions don’t become lost.

Don’t  be shy with a smile, or the words; please, thank you, and your welcome. You will find they not only brighten your day, but that of others as well. One of the most important things I remember being taught as a child, is you can often change how people respond to you, by simply changing the way you approach them.

Political parties are certainly not responsible for the morals and manners in our world. We all are.

Thank you, for taking the time to read this!

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HL November 15, 2012 at 07:51 PM
I'm sorry but I am confused. When did manners become confused with the Tea Party?
Pam Georgas November 15, 2012 at 09:06 PM
Over the course of the past political season, I found several times in conversation when todays morals, manners, and behaviors were brought up, people immediately started associating the conversation with extreme 'tea party' views. There seemed to be a belief among some of the general public that the core mission of the tea party was based on the demand of forcing people to adopt 'morals'. While I believe their were some factions of tea party that crossed the line and pushed extremist views on moral issues, the core message of the tea party seemed to be more about extreme fiscal conservatism. Media, spin, social sites and sound bites seemed to stretch it to the point that the word 'moral' became something to fear would be 'forced upon' us by the 'tea party', and associated with extremist political views (as if.... how dare anyone expect us to have morals!). Manners seemed to be associated with a sign of weakness, or 'thin skin'. It was a strange phenomena that I hope will end now that the 2012 elections are over. Manners and morals really do not belong as a 'political' viewpoint, but it would be nice if more politicians had them.
Jim Flynn November 15, 2012 at 10:12 PM
When I think about teabag...s, morals and manners are the last thing that I associate with them. More appropriate words are hatred, bigotry, and extremism. I also think about those representatives of legitimate rape Mourdock and Akin, and Sharon Angle and Michelle Bachmann. A lack of morality and manners.
HL November 15, 2012 at 10:35 PM
Pam, thanks for the further explanation. Personally, I haven't seen morals and manners associated with the Tea Party. To me, the Tea Party is a haggard mixture of various GoP views. Some are religious right (not the best morals but they think they have great morals), some are NRA, some are Libertarian (manners often an afterthought), others fiscal conservatives. Manners and morals are also two distinct things. Saying Thank You and Excuse Me isn't the same as good moral behavior. Lots with great manners are content to watch as others need help. Sometimes people with less than stellar manners have surprising morals, and so forth. Some think keeping women home and out of work are good morals, others think equality is more moralistic. It's a mixed bag across all parties. In my opinion, the one party with plus morals consistently is the Green party.
Joan November 15, 2012 at 10:59 PM
I have never associated morals and manners with the Tea Party either.
Pam Georgas November 16, 2012 at 12:15 AM
I think HL is right, morals are subjective (they can be viewed as good or bad), and manners are different.... but I feel there was some confusion this election when moral 'issues' were introduced into the media stream as a political stance, and this side tracked discussion of other issues. I think more than ever, this presidential election was driven by a firestorm of media soundbites on both sides, which left a large part of the voting population confused, and overwhelmed with conflicting information. Marketing is no longer just mailers, and TV ads. Political campaigns infiltrate every source of communication, technology, and social media outlet available. Marketing has the capability of being a fine-tuned social science in driving public opinion, but I think many of the politicians still managed to miss the mark in presenting a clear, concise, and inspirational message. I hope someone takes the time to analyze this campaign season, how to best utilize all the new media....and comes to the conclusion that 'Less, is in fact more'.
gail jarvis November 23, 2012 at 06:40 PM
Read with interest everyones "understanding" of manners and morals. I do understand everyone's comments. The change over on this subject is when we inject the "Political Landscape" of this past campaign into manners and morals. Somehow they colided and became one. Many of us couldn't seperate the hateful words with the deceitful attitude. Bullying and Verbal Debauchery were keenly on display. ANd all brought forth by the Adults-in-Charge. So through the simple process of OSMOSIS we all learned to loose alot of our manners and moral compass. Pam's article was heartfelt becasue throughout this political process (no matter who you voted for). We all lost something.
Pam Georgas November 24, 2012 at 05:40 PM
thanks Gail, for understanding what I was trying to say. My blogs are usually just thoughts written off the top of my head (not articles), so they are not always without error or cause for question. You are right we all lost something through this past political process, but with a little effort, it is not too late to reverse what was lost.
MAC December 12, 2012 at 07:43 PM
Beyond manners, what has been "lost" is our Liberty, and opportunity for restored Prosperity for our nation. Ignorance and apathy, plus a huge dose of WIFM, on the part of voters--over decades--have given us a majority of politicians (of both parties) in Congress and Hartford who are incompetent at anything beyond getting elected and making a political career for themselves. Malloy, Chris Murphy and Obama are the epitome of career politicians incompetent at the job of doing what is best for state or nation. I am not going to attribute the following quote for the moment (wondering if anyone can GUESS its source--and I don't mean cheat by doing an internet search): "Our politicians are destroying the economy. They are hijacking private business and are stealing our money and our children's future. Bush did it. Obama is doing it now. But we're fooled because we're distracted by red herrings, such as debates over which party is ^more^ irresponsible."... "Make no mistake, this is a fight of Us versus Them. 'Us' comprises those who believe in liberty, as described in the opening lines of the Declaration of Independence. 'Them' comprises those who believe that the definition of ^liberty^ must evolve with the times."... Yes, Pam, individuals can "reverse" the loss of good manners, but true Liberty and Prosperity in our nation may be gone forever.


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